Wednesday, April 11, 2007

"life's a bitch."?

"life's difficult whichever way you look at it.", "life's a bitch & then you die.", et cetera, et cetera. People are always saying stuff like that, & I really hate it. What kind of perspective on life are you giving your child by telling them that "life's not fair." every time something goes wrong? Do you want your children to grow up cold and pessimistic (like you have, you despondent old loser)? I doubt it. Realistic, maybe; prepared for any turbulence headed their way, sure. But they will become neither of these things by growing up with the idea firmly planted in their head that life sucks. Life might suck for you, but that's your problem not your kid's-they might just manage to have an awesome life & fulfil all of their dreams despite your cynical parenting so give them a damn fighting chance at least! I'm side-tracking, but my point is that life is not a bitch-not even close, if you live it right. Life is an eighty or thirty or ten year course-& like any course, really, it is what you make it. If you walk into the class at the start of each lesson thinking oh god not this again, you'll never learn anything & probably never enjoy anything either. If you walk in thinking hey this could be pretty interesting, well, you get the idea. So, yeah, bad things do happen, & I know full well that we don't get to choose every lesson that we have to sit through, but if we can find it in ourselves to look for the good & learn from the bad, we can get to the point where we can drop the subjects we don't like & focus on what we want to do. It just takes a little (ok sometimes a lot) perserverence & faith in yourself.

jo

xxx


post scriptum


"What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything but the value of nothing."
Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere's Fan


In the place of a quote, I suggest you go here www.missyhiggins.com , and listen to "Steer" as it is an awesome song which fits perfectly and she is just an awesome artist =]

2 comments:

Kourosh said...

Nice journal Jo. But strike a balance maybe? No happiness without sadness. No compassion without hate?

I don't know, I'm just postulating..

Oz said...

Thumbs up. This is exactly what I feel everytime someone tells me : "Life's like that", "It's always been like that", "That's the way it goes" (or their equivalent in french).
I think it is such a coward way to behave. Life is what we make of it, and if we passively accept the mistakes and nonsense of others, then we have no right to complain. That's my idea..